Dear All:
This afternoon, we’re going to be airing an episode of the podcast that comes with trigger warnings. If you yourself are a survivor of sexual abuse or assault or a related trauma, we welcome you to listen, but recognize it may be too much. If you are not, we thank you for being a good ally and listening with us, because Dr. Helana Darwin’s story is one that needs to be told and needs to be heard.
Our main hope is that the people who listen to this podcast become emboldened by Dr. Darwin’s example to break their own silences, or to help the people in their lives to do so. In this episode, you’ll hear that Dr. Darwin did not need our help to break her silence, although the lack of support, both from her own department and from the broader community of her fellow sociologists, has been noted. But it is still our responsibility to offer any help we can–by lending her our platform and letting her talk. You will hear as you listen to the episode that Dr. Darwin is a gifted speaker. Not everyone has that particular gift, and justice for survivors should not depend on it. So we extend this invitation to all of you: if you want our help breaking your silence, telling your story, or if you just want our help pointing you in the right direction, please do not hesitate to reach out.
In the meantime, if you or someone you know is experiencing sexual abuse, sexual assault, domestic abuse, intimate-partner abuse, grooming, gaslighting, or any other sexual- or relationship-trauma, please make use of these resources. There is no substitute for a trained professional, such as a social worker, but it can feel daunting to take that step. So please reach out–to us, if not to anyone else, because being a survivor can feel lonely, and that’s a valid feeling, but it can still be true that there are people in your corner who want to help; people who know something about what you’re going through. And because our team includes survivors of sexual assault and intimate partner violence, we can bear witness to the value of a supportive community in helping you heal.
General Resources
National Sexual Assault Hotline
1-800-656-4673 (HOPE)
*For immediate help in your local area, to find SANE (Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners–forensic nurses who have received special and additional training to care for the physical, emotional and psychological needs of sexual assault victims and survivors), you can contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE)
National Dating Abuse Helpline
1-866-331-9474
National Child Abuse Hotline/Childhelp
1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
LGBTQ+ Resources
Sexual Assault and the LGBTQ+ Community
LGBTQ+ Resources from RAINN (Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network)
Grooming and Gaslighting
Mental Health and Graduate School
The Ivory Tower Boiler Room brought you a two part series about graduate school and mental health earlier this year. Here are links to those two episodes:
We have also previously reported on failures in allyship within Stony Brook University: